As for the idea that we all fuck the same, well…pshaw. The building blocks of sexual diversity – gender identity, sexual and romantic orientation, preferred relationship style, and the myriad ways we relate to our own bodies and the bodies of others – are a robust and fun starting point in erotica, and the journey can go deep into the different kinds of arousal we experience. As an erotica writer, I want to stimulate you viscerally, sexually, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. Sexuality is sometimes framed as a lower form of animal behavior taking us over. I think that the most amazing thing about sexuality is that it can be layered onto or integrated into all these other highly complex and deeply fascinating ways of being. That sexuality itself is highly complex and deeply fascinating.
Interviewed by Carol Queen